1.09.2013

rain in autumn

It's been raining all day.  Not very hard: if it were any colder, it would have been light snow all day.  Just a soft pitter-patter on the pavement.  Grey and gloomy - mid-fall.

I love it.  It's peaceful and contemplative.  It's tranquil.  Rain never sounds rushed or frantic.  It is always 
steady.  Always careful.

The wind is soft tonight, too.  Sometime it whistles between houses, but mostly tonight it just shakes the rain off the leaves, gently, gently.

Someone across the street has a windchime on their front porch.  The wind is so gentle that they chime only lightly, so quietly, though their chiming is regular.  Sometimes it will stop for a moment, but it always starts up again.

Cars splash by on the artery road to the south every once in a while, or I hear them distantly on the main road ten blocks west, but it is nearly one in the morning, and this is a small city.  There are few cares on the road at this time of night.

This is a peaceful time, a tranquil time, but it is not necessarily a happy time.  I feel very alone; my housemates are all sleeping soundly; my boyfriend is many miles away; my closest network is disintegrating.  I am too busy to feel.  So I take this time to write when I could be sleeping - because if I don't write, this moment will be lost.  This is autumnal melancholy.  The end of some things; the hibernation of others.  This rain, this wind, the chimes - they all form parts of a lament for things ending and things never begun.  They whisper of dreams killed, of illusions broken, of hopes dashed.  This is not a happy night.

But it is peaceful, and tranquil.  I yet exist.  I yet feel.

How odd it is that our year of work begins in the death of the year.  We return to our studies, we send our children away as the leaves fall: late summer's shining optimism segues smoothly into autumn's slow beautiful death; we hold each other close through mid-winter's deep, dark cold, though in our hearts we both despise and love the company; we end things in the spring and spend the summer dreaming about the lives we'd like to have.  But we always fall down.

What to do?  This is beautiful melancholy.  There is great beauty in honourable sorrow.  I am an artist: my work is relevant and fertile in every season, for my task is to set in front of you yourself: the mirror you thought you knew .  The mirror formed by the rain spattering on the black pavement, orange light skittering in your vision, reflected from the streetlight in the shivering, dripping, scattering rain.  The mirror you don't want to see, because it shows you as you are, not as you show yourself to be.  The chimes sing, the rain falls, the wind sighs ... 

6.12.2010

There is so much I don’t know, and there is so much that I want.

I want to heal that pain I see.

But I don’t know how.

I want to act.

But I don’t know what.

I want to tell stories.

But I don’t know which ones.

I want to prove myself.

But I don’t know how.

I want to skip steps.

But at the same time I don’t.

I want to slip into someone else’s skin.

I want to escape from mine.

I don’t know why.

I want to take on a character and make it live.

I don’t know how to live.

I want to be trusted.

I don’t know how to trust.

I want to make others happy.

I want to entertain.

I don’t know how to be happy.

I want to show others the beauty of the world that I see around me.

I don’t know how.

I want to be unlimited in my life.

I want to make choices.

I want to choose my doors.

I want to be free to seek my own beauty, to seek the beauty of the world, to seek God’s beauty.

But I don’t know how.

I want to be independent.

But I don’t know how to be.

I want to trust in the kindness of others.

But I don’t know if it’s safe to.

I want to be free to love.

But I don’t know if that’s a good idea.

I want to understand.

But I don’t know where to start.

I want to find my calling.

But I don’t know which door to take.

And I’m scared of taking the wrong one.

I want to get rid of all these “I don’t know”s.

9.26.2009

Sometimes I feel my mind just can't unravel the insanity my heart is coming up with. Most of the time, there's a song that's already done it. Sometimes when I feel like crap I can't find that artist, that album, that song - but sometimes God puts His hand on my mouse and helps me scroll through my music library and find that perfect album, the one that sends shivers down my spine as I realize just how perfectly it says what I'm feeling. And then sometimes I feel better, and sometimes I don't; and sometimes I know what to do, and sometimes I don't; and sometimes I want to scream that one guitar riff in Gone because it's this scream of agony and I just want to throw myself on the ground and weep ... and sometimes I want to croak along with Bono's desperate verse and find, oh please let me find what I'm looking for ...

These are all from U2's 1997 album Pop, and they, along the with the other songs on the album, describe my heart's longings far more accurately than my brain can decipher at the moment.




You can reach, but you can't grab it.
You can't hold it, control it, you can't bag it.

You can push, but you can't direct it -
circulate, regulate, oh no, you cannot connect it.

You know you're chewing bubble gum -
you know what that is but you still want some.
You just can't get enough of that lovey-dovey stuff.

You get confused, but you know it ...
Yeah, you hurt for it, work for it, love,
You don't always show it.

Let go, let's go, discothèque.
Go, go, let go, discothèque.

Looking for the one,
but you know you're somewhere else instead.
You want to be the song,
the song that you hear in your head
Love, love, love, love.

It's not a trick, you can't learn it -
it's the way that you don't pay, that's okay,
'cause you can't earn it ...

You know you're chewing bubble gum,
you know what that is but you still want some -
you just can't get enough of that lovey-dovey stuff.

Let go, let's go, discothèque.
Go, go, go, go, discothèque.

Looking for the one,
but you know you're somewhere else instead.
You want to be the song,
the song that you hear in your head ...
Love, love, love.

But you take what you can get
'cause it's all that you can find.
Oh you know there's something more ...
but tonight, tonight, tonight.
Boom cha, boom cha, discothèque.





Take these hands, they're good for nothing -
You know these hands never worked a day ...
Take these boots, they ain't going nowhere:
You know these boots don't want to stray.

You got my head filled with songs,
You got my shoelaces undone.
Take my shirt, go on, take it off me:
You can tear it up if You can tie me down.

Do you feel loved?
Do You feel loved?
Do you feel loved?
Do You feel loved?

Take the colours of my imagination,
take the scent hanging in the air,
take this tangle of a conversation,
turn it into Your own prayer
with my fingers as You want them
with my nails under Your hide
with my teeth at Your back
and my tongue to tell You the sweetest lies.

Do you feel loved?
Do You feel loved?
And it looks like the sun
but it feels like the rain ... oh ...

Love's a bully, pushing and shoving
in the belly of a woman ...
Heavy rhythm taking over
to stick together a man and a woman,
stick together man and a woman,
stick together ...

And I feel loved ...
Do you feel loved?
Do You feel loved?

And it looks like the sun
but it feels like rain
and there's heat in the sun
to see us through the rain.

Do you feel loved?
Do You feel loved?
Do you feel ...?

Do You feel ...?




Summer stretching on the grass, summer dresses pass ...
In the shade of a willow tree, creeps a-crawling over me,
over me and over you, stuck together with God's glue -
it's gonna get stickier too.
It's been a long hot summer,
let's get under cover ...
Don't try too hard to think ... don't think at all.

I'm not the only one staring at the sun,
afraid of what you'd find if you took a look inside.
I'm not just deaf and dumb, I'm staring at the sun -
not the only one who's happy to go blind.

There's an insect in your ear:
if you scratch it won't disappear.
It's gonna itch and burn and sting ...
Do you wanna see what the scratching brings?
Waves that leave me out of reach,
breaking on your back like a beach ...
Will we ever live in peace?
'Cause those that can't do often have to
and those that can't do often have to preach

to the ones staring at the sun,
afraid of what you'll find if you took a look inside.
Not just deaf and dumb, staring at the sun ...
I'm not the only one who'd rather go blind.

Intransigence is all around,
military's still in town -
armour plated suits and ties;
daddy just won't say goodbye.
Referee won't blow the whistle -
God is good but will He listen?
I'm nearly great but there's something missing:
I left it in the duty free,
oh, though you never really belonged to me.

You're not the only one staring at the sun,
afraid of what you'd find if you stepped back inside.
I'm not sucking my thumb, staring at the sun -
not the only one who's happy to go blind.




She feels the ground is giving way.
but she thinks we're better off that way.
"The more you take, the less you feel;
the less you know the more you believe;
the more you have, the more it takes today."

You gotta give it away,
you gotta give it away,
you gotta give it away,
give it away,
you gotta give it away,
you gotta give it away.

Well, she don't care what it's worth:
she's living like it's the last night on earth,
the last night on earth.

She's not waiting on a saviour to come,
she's at the bus stop
with the News Of The World,
and the sun, sun, here it comes.
She's not waiting for anyone.

You gotta give it away,
you gotta give it away,
you gotta give it away,
give it away,
you gotta give it away,
you gotta give it away.

Well, she don't care what it's worth:
she's living like it's the last night on earth,
the last night on earth.

Slipping away, slip, slide ...
The world turns and we get dizzy
slipping away.

The clock tells her that time is slipping:
minute hands and seconds sticking ...
There's something going on she might be missing.
The world turns and we get dizzy ...
is it spinning for you the way it's
spinning for me?

She's living, living next week now.
You know she's gonna pay you back somehow.
She hasn't been to bed in a week -
she'll be dead soon, then she'll sleep.

You gotta give it away,
you gotta give it away,
you gotta give it away,
give it away,
you gotta give it away,
you gotta give it away.

She already knows it hurts:
she's living like it the last night on earth,
the last night on earth,
last night on earth,
last night.




Jesus, Jesus help me:
I'm alone in this world
and a fucked-up world it is too.

Tell me, tell me the story,
the one about eternity
and the way it's all gonna be.

Wake up, wake up dead man -
wake up, wake up dead man.

Jesus, I'm waiting here, boss:
I know you're looking out for us
but maybe your hands aren't free.

Your Father, He made the world in seven,
He's in charge of heaven.
Will you put a word in for me?

Wake up, wake up dead man,
wake up, wake up dead man.

Listen to the words: they'll tell you what to do.
Listen over the rhythm that's confusing you.
Listen to the reed in the saxophone.
Listen over the hum of the radio.
Listen over the sound of blades in rotation.
Listen through the traffic and circulation.
Listen as hope and peace try to rhyme.
Listen over marching bands playing out their time.

Wake up, wake up dead man,
wake up, wake up dead man.

Jesus, were you just around the corner?
Did You think to try and warn her?
Were You working on something new?
If there's an order in all of this disorder,
is it like a tape recorder?
Can we rewind it just once more?

Wake up, wake up dead man,
wake up, wake up dead man.
Wake up, wake up dead man.



Discothèque, Do You Feel Loved?, Staring at the Sun, Last Night On Earth, and Wake Up Dead Man are all (c) U2, from their 1997 album Pop.

8.15.2009

Teetering, teetering, so close to screaming
and I just don't know what to do anymore
So many options, no clear path to anything
I just don't know what I want anymore

Please, oh God help me
I'm lost in the marshlands
of imagination
sweatshop education

every step on my sinking trajectory
feels like I live in my own daytime comedy
breaking the fourth wall and hearing the laugh track
oh, look at the camera 'cause it's just behind me

do I marry this boy?
do I study in Brighton?
do I trust that I'm making good choices on everything?

I know that I'm not and
I know that I never will
I am a sinner
and screaming would just hurt my throat

it would rouse the neighbours
and you know that the last thing I want is to wake them
so I'll just stay quiet
and writhe on the inside
agony over my life and my chosen path

where are You, God?
where do You want me to go?
do You still love and forgive me
through all that I've done?
every corner I've taken
every step away from You
and still You wait

I can run till I drop
I can run, I can't stop
I can think, I can cry,
oh I'll think till I die
it's the one thing I know I can do near half decently
please Lord stop me thinking
I'm overreacting
and how can You love me?
How can You care for me?

I'm crazy, I'm cracking,
I'm screaming, I'm shattering,
I'm scared and I'm helpless
and yet I just won't stop screwing up
blaming myself for the things that I do
'cause there's no one else to blame for them
how can You love a person like me?

so many doors
so many of them open
but it's like I've completely forgotten
how to take the first step
how to choose which door
am I simply petrified of all the doors closing?

how do I walk again
without being afraid of the fall
that I just know is coming
Lord take my feet
and show them the path
teach me how to walk again
'cause I can't do this on my own

7.18.2009

Is it the sky today,
the way that the wind's pushing the clouds,
or is it the late day sun
stretching the shadows over the ground,
that brings on these memories
of people and places that I've never seen
and voices so strange and so sweet,
asking me softly, oh yeah ...

Where is my home?
Where is my home?

What makes this person me?
Is it the little town where I was born?
Or maybe it's history,
the faces of family I've never known -
somewhere across the sea
where my great-grandmother left long ago
under a cold crying moon,
looking for something, mm ...

Where is my home?
Where is my home?
Where is my home?
Where is my home?

Where is my home?
The walls of a city,
painted with promises and words so unkind?
Where is my home?
The trees of a country
where autumn came suddenly,
that I'll never find ...

But then there's your face, my dear -
I know I'll never be walking alone.
The love in your eyes makes it clear,
telling me softly, mm ...
This is my home.
This is my home, oh yeah.
This is my home.
This is my home.


I really wish I knew where my home was right now. I feel so drifty lately, unattached to anything. I can reason out several places in this world that could be called my home ... but I just feel like an outsider.

Where is my home? The house I've lived in for over 15 years with my much-loved family? With the other one I love so very much? With my God? There could be arguments built for any of the three answers.

Love has its reasons that reason cannot see.

Perhaps they are all home. Perhaps none of them are home. Perhaps I do not have a home yet. I know I will, someday, somewhere, somehow. It just hurts to be unattached. I want to be attached. I want to be able to breathe deeply and know that I am in my place in the world.

I am not, not right now. I am in between, in limbo. I have places to stay, I have people to be with, I have an eternal Home. All of those are homes in their own ways, but right now I just feel ... disconnected.

How did I get out of this last time? I don't remember.

Where is my home?
The walls of a city,
painted with promises and words so unkind?
Where is my home?
The trees of a country
where autumn came suddenly,
that I'll never find ...
Where is my home?
Where is my home?
Where is my home?
Where is my home?


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